SINGAPORE
- She was diagnosed with breast cancer
in 2007 and doctors gave her only months to live.
Three
times she proved them wrong, tackling the disease head-on with a grace that
proved inspirational to everyone around her, including her three young
daughters.
On
Thursday morning, five years after she was first diagnosed, Ms Evelyn Teo Swee
Lin's battle with the disease finally ended.
The
39-year-old died in Assissi Hospice, with husband Alan Yong and daughters
Sarah, 12, Nicole, 10, and Vera, seven, by her side.
On
Friday, at her wake at Eastwood Terrace, Mr Yong, 41, told The New Paper how
his wife's blog (evelynfeels.blogspot.com) had inspired many.
Readers
would comment that they were touched by her strength and faith, and that they
learnt to cherish what they had in life.
The
regional IT director for a UK company said: "They became her close
personal friends. Some were cancer patients too, and she would visit
them."
Ambassador
Ms Teo,
an ex-IT project manager, spoke openly about her illness through her blog, as a
presenter with the Catholic marriage enrichment programme and as an ambassador
of a National Healthcare Group (NHG) health awareness campaign.
Even
while she was touching other people's lives, Ms Teo didn't forget about her
loved ones.
Mr Yong
spoke fondly about how he and his wife started writing love notes to each other
in 2008, when they joined the Catholic programme Marriage Encounter.
The
couple later became presenters for the programme.
Mr Yong
has about 11 books filled with these notes. Ms Teo even kept a book each for
their daughters.
The
couple would pen their thoughts at the same time before exchanging books. And
they would share excerpts with others at the marriage programme.
"Through
her cancer experience, she was able to draw out what our struggles were as
acouple," said Mr Yong.
"There
were struggles with chemotherapy, end-of-life issues..."
The
couple had been discussing such issues for a long time, Mr Yong said.
"But
as the time draws nearer, emotion takes over. Things you talk about while your
wife is healthy are different when she's sick."
Mr Yong
said his wife was a determined person who lived her life in the manner she
wanted.
She
even planned her wake - for example, on how she would be clad in her favourite
Nonya dress.
Mr Yong
said he was making good on her request to have a rock band at her wake: the
band will play her favourite songs on Sunday, including songs from Snow Patrol
and Coldplay.
The
band request was just one item on Ms Teo's bucket list, a catalogue of things
to do before you die, drawn up when the couple found out in 2009 that hercancer
had returned after a year and had spread to her lungs.
Another
item on the list was a trip to Europe: Rome, Venice, Barcelona, Paris and
Lourdes.
Said Mr
Yong: "Doctors said she had six months to live, so we left the kids with
our parents and went for the trip of our lives."
Since
the couple only had a simple ceremony when they were married in 1999, their
friends threw them a big church party to fulfil a third item: To be married in
church.
Busy
Life as
a couple aside, Ms Teo kept busy in her last years.
In
2010, she was approached by NHG to be an ambassador for its "Caring It
Forward" campaign, in support of people passing on good health practices.
Photos
of Ms Teo and her family were put up around MRT stations and she was
interviewed on radio and television talk shows.
She
also contributed a recipe to the Nanyang Technological University's
"Sharing Plates" cookbook project, which contains anecdotes and
recipes for cancer patients.
Mr Yong
said that his wife had prepared their daughters well for her death.
Said Mr
Yong: "We didn't hide the truth from them, but said it in a way they would
understand.
"As
for her projects, Mummy did them as deposits into the memory of her
children."
He
added: "To achieve what she did within a short period of time was amazing.
For me, I was proud and privileged to have married her.
"All
I did was go along for the ride."
Regular screening, early diagnosis important
From
2006 to 2010, 51,657 cases of cancer were diagnosed among Singapore residents.
Of
these, 25,087 (48.6 per cent) affected men and 26,570 (51.4 per cent) women,
while 12,680 men and 10,243 women died from the disease.
Colorectal
cancer was the most common cancer in men, but lung cancer had the highest
mortality rate. For women, breast cancer was the most common and had the
highest mortality rates.
Dr Wong
Seng Weng, medical director and consultant medical oncologist at The Cancer
Centre, said the three top cancers for which screening is encouraged are breast
cancer, cervical cancer and colorectal cancer.
As many
as eight out of 10 breast cancer cases may be completely cured if diagnosed
early, he said.
Ministry
of Health recommends women to start screening for breast cancer when they reach
40. A mammogram is recommended every two years for women 50 years and above.
Men and
women 50 years and older are advised to go for regular screening for colorectal
cancer, through either a screening colonoscopy every 10years, or an annual
stool analysis.
Women
should also be screened for cervical cancer, said Dr Wong. Sexually active
women above 25 years old should go for pap smears every three years, the
Ministry of Health recommends.
Rennie
Whang
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